Theme-centered Support Groups

Let’s work through it together

Identity House peer support groups are typically an 8 week closed gathering of individuals who come together, overseen by two facilitators, to talk with one another about their experiences, struggles and challenges. A peer support group is a freeing experience, as these individuals realize “I am not alone,” and hope and trust grow between them.

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Current & Upcoming Groups

  • Wednesdays

    Gay/Bi Men’s Coming Out

    Starting August 14, 2024

    This an 8-week, closed support and discussion group welcoming gay and bisexual/pansexual men of all ages coming out at any stage, or exploring or questioning their sexual orientation. It’s a safe space to confidentially share experiences, fears, challenges, hopes and discuss how coming out, or reflection on sexual orientation, relates to identity and different areas of life. The group will be run by 2 Identity House co-facilitators. Discussion is largely self-led by participants, with topics that may include family, homophobia, social norms and masculinity, sex, dating, relationships, religion, isolation, coming out at work/to family & friends, labels, and/or any other topics of interest to the group.

    The group meets once a week for 8 weeks, on Wednesdays 6:30-8:30pm Eastern Time, beginning August 14, 2024. We will meet in person in lower Manhattan at a location to be announced.

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Past Group Topics

  • Lesbians’ Coming Out
  • Gay Men’s Coming Out
  • Queer Connections
  • Trans/Non-Binary Support
  • Gender Exploration
  • Bisexual & Pansexual
  • GBTQ Men of Color
  • Consensual Non-Monogamy

Interested in one of these topics, or have a suggestion for another group?

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Support Groups FAQ

  • How do support groups work?

    Group members are able to talk with other people who are like themselves — people who truly understand what they’re going through and can share the type of practical insights that can only come from firsthand experience.

  • When and where are the groups?

    Check this page for an up-to-date list of current and upcoming groups. The date and time for the group will be set in advance, and the location will be shared with the members once they have joined.

  • How do I sign up for a group?

    Select the group you’re interested and fill out the Request to Join form. If there is space available, the group facilitator will invite you to a screening. Groups that are currently ongoing may be closed and no longer accepting new members. In that case, you can sign up to be notified of future groups.

  • Can I miss a group?

    Please sign up for a group when you know you can commit to the time. We believe being present for the full 8 weeks provides the richest experience for the individual and the group as a whole. We know life happens, so if you need to miss a group please let the facilitators know. Multiple absences may lead to individuals being asked to leave the group.

  • What does a group look like?

    Each group is run by two Identity House facilitators. Session are usually two hours long. Most groups have between 8 and 12 people but that can vary. The groups are focused on topics, which are explored during each meeting. Past groups have included Coming Out, Transgender Support, Gender Exploration, Black and Latino Gay Men, Bisexual and Pansexual Support, among others.

  • How much do groups cost?

    Identity House is completely donation based. We suggest $25 per session, but no one will be turned away due to inability to pay. Some individuals choose to pay for the full eight weeks up front, others pay each week.

  • Can I join a group after it’s started?

    Most of our groups are closed, meaning once it has started, no new members are added. Any groups that do accept new members after they begin will be labeled “drop-in.” If you cannot make the first session, please let the facilitators know.

  • Can I bring a friend?

    No. In order to build trust and maintain confidentiality sessions are limited to group members only.

I felt welcomed and safe. I was not judged about the things I shared or when I did not feel comfortable sharing. I was very, very grateful to be in a space like that.

Lesbian Coming Out Group Member

Being able to bear witness to the struggles and fears of other men coming to terms with their identities in some way, and noticing the ways in which we were different and similar, was very helpful. I always felt very accepted and happier at the end of the session.

Gay Men Coming Out Group Member

The group helped me in taking steps forward and get some courage to be able to express and not feel ashamed of who I am

Gender Exploration Group Member

The Group was the best way I found to share my story about realizing I was gay and my process of coming out with others who are struggling.

Lesbian Coming Out Group Member